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Hilario-Owen
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on: 2008-08-08 18:34:05» |
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My husband is deployed were we live I don't have anyone around and we have a newborn baby. I am going back to work and the day care center is around 0 a week for FT child care. My husband is giving me the money for rent and an extra 0 a month. So I have to pay a sitter so I can work to buy our baby what she needs and pay all the other bills. I don't know if he gets any extra pay while he is deployed he is in Kosovo.I had a hard time with him paying anything before when I was pregnant now it's like I'm a single parent with no help. I won't have much left over every payday after paying for child care. I bought a bus pass so I can travel to the child care center and work that way. I don't have insurance on my car now and can't afford gas. When my husband left for deployment all he bought was a bag of diapers he didn't give me any money for anything. My friend watched my baby for me this week while I did a temp service job so I could buy the baby formula and diapers. I don't know what to do anymore I am seriously upset I just feel like our marriage should be 50/50 and it's not. I the one who goes without all the time and it sucks not even being able to go to the grocery when I need to. When he left for deployment he didn't put the baby on his insurance he had awhile to do so but didn't. So last week I had to go to job and family services and apply for her to get insurance through them. I love my husband and I give this marriage my all people, I do seriously. But when is enough enough it sucks being married leaving my baby with my friend and walking all over the city just to find something for right now so I can buy her what she needs when I do think my husband could be helping us out more. Even after all his bills he should have something left over I would think but who knows. When he was home he spent any extra money he had on eating out and who knows what else. I just need some advice on what my game plan should be. I can't live like this I should not have to worry about my electric going to be turned off when I have a new baby it's sick. Any advice would be helpful thanks.
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Ariana-Sayre
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RE: What's Going On With My Husband? Kinda Long Only Serious Answers
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on: 2008-08-08 20:14:56» |
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AND..... A husband and father would never do this to his family. Maybe you should start seriously thinking about making a change. But wow, this is beyond low. I swear, I never tell people this, but something is really wrong here tx e payday loans (like he should be doing in the first place!) - go to your local thrift store they can help with numbers and things you need.
- you can call the electricity company and others to get low income prices.
- i dont know where you live.
tx e payday loans - good luck you may have to tell your husband he needs to help more and there is no other way.
- there is services that will help with food, diapers clothes ect.
- but can you get medical for your child.
- you are stuck, i know day care is expensive.
- sit down and write out the bills and tell him you are xx.xx short and that the way it is, your child needs him tx e payday loans
No man worth having around would EVER EVER EVER do that to his wife, much less his own child. I know it sucks to be alone, and I had to go through that myself with a special needs child. I've had to do it before and it is a huge and difficult step, but in the long run you will finally have a piece of mind. he will be forced to support his family. You really need to re-evaluate your situation honey. Although my situation was easier because the father was happily around, and the problem was fidelity.
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Trevor-Aultman
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on: 2008-08-09 05:18:26» |
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call his commanding officer, find out why your not getting a check sent from the govt tx e payday loans
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Clemente-Dickinson
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on: 2008-08-08 20:44:20» |
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You need to talk to him,teel him that if he don't give you more money You're doing to talk to he's commding officer,My's daughter did that now she ids geting 00 a mo.So you have to this for you and your daughter sake tx e payday loans
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Olympia-Isemann
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RE: What's Going On With My Husband? Kinda Long Only Serious Answers
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on: 2008-08-08 20:26:08» |
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send red cross messages to him overseas...."honey i need you to give me access to our money tx e payday loans Some people hate getting that sort of help, but that's what it is there for. plus as a spouse you can put your baby in the daycare on base...it is calculated by pay so it is usually cheaper than off base. It sounds like you are in a really tough spot. I would check into that through your local service department and if this is the truth, then have it changed. Also, I think I have heard that social services will pay your electric bill one time if you are in a tight spot. the baby should already be on it if so. Hope you the best!And yes...if you are really really having a tough time, I do think it would be okay for you to apply for food stamps. http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/aboutwic/wicataglance.htm I hope this helps. Good luck to you. what service & rank? be strong.That would help a lot with your baby formula and all tx e payday loans Not sure if you have to pay them back eventually or what, but you might give that a try...I think it was social services, not positive. Not sure, medicaid might still save you money....you would just need to look into it tx e payday loans Also, you might be eligible for medicaid as well...but I guess you said your baby is now on his insurance. plus use the comissary as much as you can. you can survive! go to JAG...free lawyer advice...you are authorized as a spouse!! he has to pay his bills according to uniform code of military justice. If I am thinking right, (?) I think you automatically get money for you and the child and should come directly to you through the government unless he has made everything go to him. I hope this helps in some small way. Are you on WIC? each service has a name for it, but they all have one. I know it is a humiliating thing, but you are trying really hard to make this work and just know that you will not always be in this spot. didn't you have tricare when you were pregnant? he get's extra $$ for hazard pay. call the wives group...there is always one organized when the boys leave. Things will get better, it just doesn't seem like it right now. if he continues to not help you...call his chain of command. use all the assets you can. i don't know what you're hubbie's problem is. they're the ladies that send the care packages, organize the welcome home party. you have priviliges as a military spouse. I am sorry that things are so hard. our baby needs, food, shelter, ect." if he did go to the base and get into housing asap! i'm sorry he's being a jerk. his commander will see them. no power or gas bills! So I would try to apply for WIC if you haven't already. did he give you a power of attorney before he left?
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Ernie-Millhouse
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on: 2008-08-08 20:13:05» |
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They have affordable living and you get a check as well? I think this year they are adding baby food to the checks. If you are breast feeding, they provide free milk, cheese and cereal. I am not sure how it works and i thought that when you are married to someone in the service, you can live on base? Plus, you could try to get a job at home or in a daycare so you can take your little one with you. There is also wic. Im confused tx e payday loans You get that until your child is 5. but there are many options out there when it comes to food and medical. get a studio apartment...its just you and the baby anyhow.just save money. like food stamps and medicaid. cant you call the military and talk to them about assistance? maybe even find a cheaper home to live in?
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Jacob-Burch
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RE: What's Going On With My Husband? Kinda Long Only Serious Answers
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on: 2008-08-08 20:21:03» |
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If I knew what branch of military we are talking I may be able to give you some more information. this is normally headed up by fellow military wives... more info is needed here... Do you have separate bank accounts? Hun you need to step up and take care of somethings on your own. If its Army you should have a family readiness group that is there to assist you in many ways.. and what branch of the military is he in? I would be happy to try and help you but I need more info. I don't want to sound harsh but.. And you need to take a big long look at where this marriage is going.. How long is he gone? Was he home when the baby was born? Why are you not in base housing? When my husband was deployed he came home for the but I had to go in and get our newest child enrolled in the program so that he was covered under our full medical... You need to go and get your baby in to deers (defense enrollment eligibility reporting systems) he/she IS covered under tricare at NO COST to your spouse tx e payday loans you are right marriage is 50/50 and right now it looks to me like you are working on more of a 90/10 situation...
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