Okay where do I start? I am 20 years old, I recently became a nurse and purchased my own home. I have been dating my boyfriend over 2 and a half years now. We have been living together now for about 8 months now and I love him, he's really great. There are a couple problems I have however that have been bothering me a lot lately. I make more money then he does so I pay all the big bills.. I pay mortgage, power, water, groceries, pet supplies (we have a lot of pets-about 250$ a month) and mostly anything else we need. He has a select few that he pays automatically but the load is about 75% more on my half not leaving me much for myself or for my savings. But I love him you know and he says that he's slow at work and not making much so I just go ahead and pay everything. He doesn't offer me any extra help financially unless I hound him for it. Just the other day I snooped in his email (which I know was wrong) and I found some messages between him and some gun salesmen.. he enjoys shooting guns at the range.. it's kind of his hobby.. and he planned on buying 2 guns today for 700$... all week I tried to get it out of him but he lied and lied saying he had to go help his friend with something (buy the guns) and all these different excuses as to why I could not come along. Then when I requested some money from his paycheck he said it was very small and he had to pay bills now it is gone. He came up with a big elaborate lie and had me thinking he really was at his friends bc his friend was talking in the background! but I know they both went together because on his email he told someone he got the guns. And his excuse to the salesman was that he could not buy the gun prior to Friday (payday) because he had to pay his "mortgage" and he didn't want to have to "dip" into his savings... So my problem is 1. he is lying...2. he is being unresponsible...3. I'm working like a fool to support him and he won't even offer me money to help pay. He's a great guy don't get me wrong, I just don't know what to do. I could not call him out on it bc I was wrong to have been snooping in his email. Please help.
Dalton-Butler
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RE: Relationship Advice?
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on:2008-08-15 22:05:43»
he dont have it hard you pay most of the big bills and treat him right the least he can do is be respectful and tell you the truth.
first off i want to say congradulations on being a nurse and having a house i am graduating with my cna license and i then want to go to school to become an lpn.
relationships are based off trust and he will lie to you about this then what will stop him from lying to you about other things quick payday advance cash loan if you really care for him and he really cares for you then you should sit down and talk to him about it and he needs to tell you the truth.
with that said i would have to say sit down and talk to him about it.
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